dont you think its enough to "just" look for him?

Life is full of surprises, sometimes good sometimes bad. But there is one thing common in there, having an experience about the event. The main idea is are we learning from the life, to make our path smoother? if we do, then there is a success always at the end of these roads. Think about the first steps of the child. Sure children will fail a couple of times and sometimes they get hurt too, but never give-up. WYSIWYG rules apply, I'm no different than who I actually am, no role plays, not an actor, not a good liar (OK maybe some white lies)