Ideally, my ideal match will be a woman who has her stuff in order and is ready to start a family... Of course first impressions and attraction are important - I believe that chemistry is critical, but I am mostly interested in finding someone that I can be attracted to, as well as respect intellectually. I am 40 by years, and for fear of sounding cliche, I will not say 40 is the new... But I will say that my energy can be confused for a 30 yr old.